"The most basic and powerful
way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps
the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention….
A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect
than the most well-intentioned words."
Naomi Remen "An enemy is one whose
story we have not heard."
"I was in the presence of such incredible
and diverse women, all of whom shared their dreams and their
nightmares. I watched, and participated, as 39 women joined
forces to aid one woman through a difficult or beautiful revelation.
I listened as women told secrets they had never shared before
because there was so much trust and understanding hovering in
the room. I shared my own experiences with them as well. We
laughed and we cried. "
"Sometimes being a friend
means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence.
A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their
own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when
it’s all over."
"Generally speaking, the first
nonviolent act is not fasting, but dialogue. The other side, the
adversary, is recognized as a person, he is taken out of his anonymity
and exists in his own right... To engage someone in dialogue
is to recognize him, have faith in him. At every step in the nonviolent
struggle, at every level we try tirelessly to establish a dialogue,
or reestablish it if it has broken down." --Hildegard
"Listen, or your tongue will keep you
Excerpts from At last, a movement that
would have us listen to and learn from each other
"On Friday night, we broke into three groups (of eight participants
and one facilitator each) to discuss such questions as, What did
you understand about being an American when you were 12 years
old? How have you experienced political differences and how did
that affect you personally?
It was impossible to participate in that exercise without coming
to see (and feel and know) that every participant, whatever their
politics, was a complex and caring human being."
"But the end result of that conversation is we all realized
-- I mean, we all really “got” -- how misleading and
even infantilizing the old political spectrum had become."
"Before leaving, we all signed our names to a document titled
“We the People.” Many of us signed with flourishes,
as if we were signing something akin to the Declaration of Independence.
Here are the key passages:
“We respect our
differences and recognize America needs every one of our viewpoints,
ideas, and passions -- even those we don’t agree with --
to keep our democracy vital and alive;
that meeting here and across our land for dialogues across differences
builds trust, understanding, respect, and empowerment -- the conditions
necessary for freedom and democracy to live in us and around us;
each still grounded in our own considered views (conscience and
convictions), we commit ourselves and our communities of interest
to foster dialogue across the many divides in America, in large
and small groups, to build trust, insight, and inspired action
toward the more perfect union we all desire” "
"If we could read the secret history
of our enemies, we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering
enough to disarm all hostility." --
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807-1882)
Selective Attention Test
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